By Beth Lueders
A heart attack. A car accident. A stroke. For women whose spouses die, the grief is often magnified by the stress and uncertainly of legal and financial matters. According to a report by Cherie Blair, wife of the former British prime minister, the countries with the highest number of widows in 2010 include China with 43 million, the United States with 13.6 million, Japan with 7.4 million, Brazil with 5.6 million, Germany with 5.1 million, and Bangladesh and Vietnam with about 4.7 million each. An estimated 245 million widows are in the world, and money worries add to these women’s feeling overwhelmed at being single again. What can a recent widow do to lessen the burden of her finance and estate decisions?
- Ask for help with time-sensitive tasks. In the immediate aftermath of losing a spouse, only a few items are of essential priority. Enlist the help of an informed family member or friend to help you make a list and timeline of important matters to accomplish over the next 30 days and following months (will, social insurance survivor benefits, trusts, etc.). The top of your list should include:
- Death certificate and affidavit of domicile (proof of late spouse’s place of residence) — contact the local coroner’s office for 10-20 copies of the death certificate to send to financial/legal institutions; an attorney can supply the affidavit of domicile form.
- Life insurance benefits — payment can take weeks once the insurance company receives the necessary paperwork.
- Health insurance — check with your health insurer. Sometimes health insurance companies allow widows to continue with coverage.
- Wait on the bigger decisions. Among the best advice after a spouse dies is to hold off making major decisions and changes. Postpone immediately selling the house, moving or shifting savings and investments.
- Consult with the professionals. To begin making the more consequential asset decisions, contact a professional financial planner, estate attorney or certified public accountant.
In the initial loss and grief, it is important to focus on the physical and emotional health of the family. With the help of others and a bit of breathing room, no widow needs to feel alone in the process of settling money matters.
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An award-winning journalist who has documented stories in nearly 20 countries, Beth Lueders is an author, writer and speaker who frequently reports on diverse topics, including ageing and health issues for international corporations.